How to Involve a Friend or Family Member in Your Wedding Ceremony (Without the Stress)

27 Oct

So, your sibling has a way with words. Your mate has always said they would love to marry you. Or you just want someone you love up there with you on the big day.

Including a friend or family member in your ceremony is a beautiful way to make it more personal. But there are a few important things to consider before handing over the microphone.

As a celebrant who has helped dozens of couples find the right balance, I am here to tell you: there is more than one way to do it. Let’s dive in.

First, Understand the Legal Bits

In Australia, only a registered celebrant (or an authorised religious minister) can legally solemnise a marriage. That means:

They must say the legal Monitum.
They must oversee the legal vows and witness signatures.
They must lodge your documents with Births, Deaths and Marriages.

So even if your loved one is leading the ceremony, a celebrant still needs to be there to make it official.

Ways to Involve a Loved One

1. The “Friend Led, Legally Wed” Package

This is one of my favourite ways to blend personal and professional. Your friend or family member leads most of the ceremony. They share stories, welcome guests, and speak from the heart.

I, as your celebrant, step in for the legal parts. I coach your loved one beforehand, help you write the ceremony, and make sure everything is compliant. The best of both worlds.

2. Ask Them to Do a Reading

Whether it is a poem, song lyrics, or something they have written, this is a great way to include someone without too much pressure.

It works well during the middle of the ceremony, especially after your vows.

3. Invite Them to Introduce You

You can have your celebrant wrap up the ceremony, then invite your loved one to pronounce you married. It is a crowd-pleaser and a beautiful surprise.

Things to Consider

Nerves: Not everyone is comfortable speaking in front of a crowd. Chat with your chosen person first.
Structure: Make sure someone (your celebrant!) is overseeing the flow so things do not go off track.
Sound: Will they use a mic? Can they be heard clearly?
Timing: Keep the ceremony under 30 minutes for guest comfort and vendor schedules.
Backups: If your friend is sick or overwhelmed, your celebrant should be ready to step in smoothly.

Final Word

Weddings are personal. And if having someone you love up there with you feels right, there is always a way to make it happen.

Just remember, legal does not have to mean boring. And personal does not have to mean chaotic. The magic is in the mix.

🫶 Want a celebrant who can guide your friend, keep things legal, and help you craft a ceremony that actually feels like you? Let’s chat. I am based in Bunbury and work across WA creating love filled ceremonies with a side of organised calm.

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