How to Write Wedding Vows You’ll Actually Love Saying Out Loud
Writing your own wedding vows is one of the most personal and meaningful things you can do for your ceremony.
But let us be honest, it can feel a bit overwhelming. You want to sound like yourself, avoid the clichés, and say something your partner will remember forever. As a Bunbury based celebrant who helps couples all over Perth and South West WA, I get asked for vow help all the time. So, here is my simple guide to writing vows you will actually love saying out loud.
5 Questions to Help You Write Your Wedding Vows
Use these questions to build the shape of your vows. Answer them honestly, add some examples, and speak from the heart. You do not need to be a poet to write vows that hit home.
1. How did it begin?
Think back to how your relationship started. Where did you meet? What were your first impressions? Was there a moment you thought, this could be something special?
"When we met at that messy house party in Fremantle, I had no idea I was talking to the love of my life. But after ten minutes chatting about old music and terrible takeaway, I knew I wanted to keep hearing your voice."
2. What do you love about them?
Talk about your partner. Why do you love them? What is it about them that makes you want to get married?
"I love how you bring calm to every chaotic moment, how you make everyone feel seen, and how you somehow remember where I put my keys better than I do."
3. What defines your relationship?
Share a few favourite memories or milestones. Think about what makes you a team—travel moments, tough seasons, inside jokes, or quiet nights in.
"From hiking the Stirling Ranges in sideways rain to watching bad movies in bed with our dog snoring between us, every chapter with you has been my favourite."
4. What do you promise?
This is where you make your vows. Include three to four promises. Aim for a mix of heartfelt and light-hearted. Think of these as the foundation of your marriage.
"I promise to listen, even when we disagree. I promise to back you, always. I promise to keep celebrating the little wins. I promise to never touch your car radio stations."
5. What do you hope for the future?
End with a gentle look forward. Talk about what you are excited for, even if you do not know exactly what lies ahead.
"I cannot wait to see what the future holds for us. Whatever it looks like, I know it will be magic with you by my side."
Vow Writing Tips
Write how you speak. It does not have to be formal or flowery.
Keep it to about one minute. Around 150 to 200 words is a great length.
Practise reading out loud to check the flow.
You do not have to memorise your vows. I can print them for you to read on the day.
Feeling nervous? Keep a tissue in your pocket and breathe. It is okay to cry or laugh.
Vow Template to Get You Started
"[Partner’s name], from the moment we met [insert story or memory], I knew [what you felt]. I love you for [reasons]. Together we have [shared experiences]. Today, I promise to [vows]. I cannot wait to [nod to future]."
"I still remember the first time I saw you. It was [funny or sweet story], and I thought, wow.
I love you for your [quirks or strengths], your [random fun fact], and your [thing they always do].
I promise to never steal the doona (intentionally), to always laugh at your bad jokes, and to walk beside you, through the weird, the wonderful, and everything in between.""You are my best friend, my steady place, and the love of my life. I promise to honour and cherish you, to hold your hand through the highs and lows, and to create a home built on kindness and laughter. Today, I choose you, and I will keep choosing you, every day, for the rest of our lives."
Can I Keep Them a Surprise?
Absolutely. Many couples choose to keep their vows secret until the ceremony. If you go this route, just make sure they are a similar length. I am happy to check both sets privately to ensure they match in tone and length. All those golden nuggets you give me in your love story questionnaires, I will give back to you, because sometimes they sound better coming from you both than from a stranger.
Final Thoughts
Your vows are a chance to speak directly to the person you love, in your own words. They do not need to be perfect, just honest and heartfelt. If you need help putting them together or want a second opinion, I am always happy to lend a hand. Let us work together to make them something truly memorable.
Call That Celebrant © 2025 Elise is an Authorised Civil Celebrant based in Bunbury, creating relaxed, personal, and legally sound ceremonies across Perth, South West WA, and beyond. She offers expert help with wedding vows, custom ceremonies, and marriage paperwork under the Marriage Act 1961.
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